WJ 45RFE Shifting and Drivetrain Noise

Just thoughts, so here it all is:
hard shifts 2-3, sometimes 3-4. Not sure if it had the flash done to it though

very light shifts 1-2, seems to slip

drivetrain howl over 55, worse at part throttle than none or 1/2+ does when in P/N at throttle too

clunk going into gears from P, R-D shift

erratic low idle, seems to be fixed by going up from recommended min. fuel in Winter

A hair over 100k miles with the 4.7 full-time 4, has recent driver's boot, had axle replaced after being told it was too short on pass. side.
Author: 270SE