Wiring in new distributor

So I am finally getting around to installing my new electronic ignition conversion distributor with the mopar ecu. I am having a struggle with the wiring and the guys at mancini are having trouble with it too.

My starter relay only has 4 posts not the 5 like the ones in the instructions. The one side for ignition goes to the "In" on the resistor and ties to the Blue/yellow wire from the ECU. where does the other side of the resistor go? just to "+" on the coil? or does it go to there and to the middle "start" post on my relay also?

my relay is this one. http://i.ebayimg.com/00/s/Mzc1WDUwMA==/z/nP8AAOxycD9TVl3W/$_3.JPG?set_id=2

Thanks,

Gary
Author: 70newport